It may come as a bit of a surprise, (to those of you who know that I have written the most explicit adult erotic book ever, ‘Red Satin’), that I think the dirtiest word is one which has absolutely nothing to do with sex, sexuality, licentiousness, or swearing.
For those who are more familiar with my mainstream Novels the shock will not be quite so great, I am sure.
That said I am certain that I shall have to explain why I have chosen the word ‘Conventional‘ as the worst word in the English language.
I will start by saying that we all, or at least a great many of us, like to think that we are unique individuals, a bit off beat, a little crazy, even wacky at times, but the truth the majority of people, and that most probably includes you, are not.
I agree that we all have moments where we do things that we, or our friends, may consider stupid, out of character, or down right idiotic.
Sometimes we embarrass ourselves in public, sometimes we regret certain acts that we perform, but this is not unique, crazy or out of the ordinary. Far from it in fact, it is ‘normal‘ behaviour, behaviour that is accepted as pretty much standard in our modern society and therefor it is conventional.
Some of you, I am sure, are already rebelling at my last statement, how dare I call you, of even begin to describe your last act of stupidity, as conventional?
I am glad you are thinking like that, because this is one of the reasons I dislike this word, just as you are now beginning to do now.
That said, I have just scratched the surface of my reasons, so I shall continue with my explanation while you muse over the quandary of being, or not, a conventional conformist.
kənˈvɛnʃ(ə)n(ə)l/ Submit adjective
- based on or in accordance with what is generally done or believed.
“a conventional morality had dictated behaviour” synonyms: normal, standard, regular, ordinary, usual, traditional, typical.
The next point I will examine is why, if you are so bloody special, do you then conform to societies conventional practices?
When you had your last job interview how wild and wacky were you then?
I bet you presented yourself as a very straight laced conventional human being in that instance, am I right?
When did you last go to eat in a restaurant wearing only underwear belonging to the opposite sex?
My bet is never………………my point, well my point is that to have done either of those things is considered, by current convention, wrong.
You would not have got the position you wanted if the interviewers did not consider your mental state within conventionally accepted boundaries.
Chances are you would not have been allowed entry into the restaurant, maybe even been arrested for indecent exposure in a public place!
My point has two distinct facets, one is that of financial gain/loss.
Having control over our personal income is one way we are conditioned to accept convention. The government, banking and financial institutions use fiscal policy to keep the general public, including you, under control and help to ensure that we work within the conventional framework they have engineered.
That is why you acted so meekly at that interview.
The second facet is peer pressure.
As those about us, including family, friends, colleagues and associates have been conditioned by the state, and the media, to accept what they wish us to believe is ‘normal‘ or ‘regular‘ behaviour, the threat of losing our status among our peers is often greater than the loss itself.
This social pressure is also present in the second of the scenarios outlined. Loosing friends, or their respect, just because you wanted to eat sushi while dancing naked in the civic fountain may be appealing for your inner wish to be free, but under the domination of conventional social interactivity it is a no no!
The Law, be it enforced by local authorities, state or county police, is just another control over our freedoms and liberties that give the majority of us no option but to follow the demands of this infectious and deliberating virus termed convention.
Are you beginning now to see why I think this word is bad, or to be honest, why this words definition is dirty?
So what of those / us who defy convention?
Hobo’s, dropouts, weirdo’s, perverts, hippies, off their rockers, crazies, are all names I have heard people, and that means you too, call those that have raised two fingers to convention. You know, the people who acted the way you wished you had the courage to act.
OK, so sometimes one of these names may be correctly applied to a certain individual, but then that individual is not one of the ones I am referring to here.
Here I am speaking about intelligent civilised human beings who by conscious effort, situation or downright fortune, (good or bad), have elected to disassociate themselves as much from conventional life as is possible. I say possible because even those who withdraw far away from society are still, inevitably, affected by the modern world in some degree, at some point.
However the majority of those /us who choose alternative lifestyles are not looking to turn our backs on everyday life, and not looking to hide away from social contact.
While we seek to live our lives in association with others with the same, or similar mind-set. We will blend in with the ordinary ‘vanilla’ folks on the street, we act and intermingle with you, and yet hold a key to a world where riches and dreams are the freedoms and expressions of the mind, body, soul, and spirit.
It is a world which when found, few wish to leave. This is true uniqueness, true individuality of character, (and not just occasionally singing out of key during a drunken stumble home on a wet and rainy night).
Conventional means living under the will of those that control society, this is why I think that conventional is a dirty and disgusting word.
Thank you for reading.
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